What is the most important quality of a leader/pastor/spouse?

Over the years I have met some incredible leaders. I've had the privilege of working with and under some great men of God and have a father that is one of the best "common sense" small business owners. I also have a canny ability to "point out" up and coming leaders years before they get the big opportunity thats proves they are gifted to lead people or an organization or church.
  When I was around 12 yrs. old a famous televangelist stumbled and had a very public failure. I would have never guessed how much his failure in the area of leadership, would have on my life, training and church ministry. It led me to question "How does God choose who He uses?" and " How could He allow men in mighty positions (that represent Him) to lead others astray?"
    I have had a saying for some time that for every leader that has a major scandal on a national level , that every small town and city also has leaders that are just as guilty of doing the same thing. I have seen many smaller churches and business on the local level that experienced the same scandal of mistrust and misleading that we hear echoed in papers of the evils of wall street. Until I became an adult and saw first hand how a self serving leader can destroy a business or church that others have poured their hearts and soul's into, I never understood the value of pure hearted leaders.
   It has led me to ask " what is the most important quality of a leader, pastor or even a spouse?" After reseacrching this I ran across this quote that sums it up.

Rick Warren -

Leadership is a relationship.Without other's trust u arent a leader.The fastest way to earn people's trust is trust THEM.


I agree its not talents, gifting, or even experience. If people don't trust you "in their gut" you are not a leader.