high cost of wrong people in your life

if a parent can influnence your choice of friends from age 12 - 16 they can protect your future as an adult. if I can instruct you to avoid certain types of people during your dating years I can predict your rate of divorce or marriage longevity.

The harder it is to make you offended & the easier it is to make you content...the happier you'll be.

5-7The Call of Abram
1 The LORD had said to Abram, "Leave your country, your people and your father's household and go to the land I will show you.
2 "I will make you into a great nation
and I will bless you;
I will make your name great,
and you will be a blessing.

3 I will bless those who bless you,
and whoever curses you I will curse;
and all peoples on earth
will be blessed through you."

4 So Abram left, as the LORD had told him; and Lot went with him.

genesis 13:5-7 Lot, who was traveling with Abram, was also rich in sheep and cattle and tents. But the land couldn't support both of them; they had too many possessions. They couldn't both live there—quarrels broke out between Abram's shepherds and Lot's shepherds. 8-9 Abram said to Lot, "Let's not have fighting between us, between your shepherds and my shepherds. After all, we're family. Look around. Isn't there plenty of land out there? Let's separate. If you go left, I'll go right; if you go right, I'll go left."

10-11 Lot looked. He saw the whole plain of the Jordan spread out, well watered (this was before God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah), like God's garden,

lot was selfish and chose he best part.

people are never loyal for what you did for them in the past, only what they believe you can do for them in the future. if you want to know the value of a relationship - take money out of the equation. prodigal son - give me what is mine.

question: why should we learn to evaluate relationships?

samson allowed one wrong relationship to ruin his annointing.

ever seen a boy crazy 13 yr old girl. facebook. whole self worth wrapped up in who she dates. values her boyfriends opinions over her parents. gets used abused and thrown out.

answer:when you protect our hearts, we protect our future.. leave some reserve. leave room of commitment, love , intimacy body.

who are wrong people?

1. those who birth doubt in your life. they destroy your dreams , hopes for a better life. intimidate you. 10 spies killed the vision of the people for 40 yrs


GREAT people make others feel great. Small people make others feel small

if you fail it will be due to someone you allowed to speak into your life.

your future is decided by who you choose to believe. choose someone good.

2. people of rebellion- those running from God, out of the will of God jonah was a run away preacher. about sink the whole ship. there life is chaotic, those bitter, angry, jealous, envious, the storm inside will multiply and explode outward. its never there fault.

how will you recognize them- unhappy , no joy, gossip, strife,

those that sin with you will eventually sin against you. when you agree with a rebel you will reap the same consequences.

3. someone who refuses to stay under authority.

we are all under some ones authority. those that constantly grumble against bosses, opiniated you can't help someone who thinks they know more than you. jezebel - married to a king, had nabeth killed so her husband could have his vineyard.

4. those bitter against a man of God. not a fan of preachers , love pastors. preach love preaching, pastors love people. bible school 10 % bologna chris hodges says 50% pastors shouldn't bein ministry due to wrong motives, umhealthy family life, unhealthy marriage, personal sin. many families that i love have almost been destroyed not by preachers. most pastors are 90 % good , have to beat down that 10% flesh.

start of our church some ran complaining against other pastors and other churches. good men and churches. don't know if i can make them happy. not 1 of them stayed. some people sheep some goats. some people are ungovernable.

parents: the greatest way to insure your kids will not remain in church when they get older is to critisize churches, leaders openly. seen husband drop out, kids get disinterested. the preacher you crucify today may be the only person God is using to reach your kids or husband.

have never had to ask someone to leave, have asked God to remove rebellious personalities to protect this house.

bible says go to that person if you someone has done you wrong. if they don't give a rip seen those , move on. protect your family.

4. those bitter against a man of God.some people can't learn from a mentor they can only learn from pain. somebody needs to help them but not you. women have a hard time accepting this.People respond to responsibility. But if you treat them as babies you'll have to diaper them the rest of your life.

5.people who don't take advice or seek help.
for every wrong person that leaves your life , God will send multiple good people to bless you.


God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them. rick warren

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The bible said that, "They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us." [1 John 2:19]